The carrot and the stick: the creation of reverence

Should we use the carrot (reward) or the stick (punishment) to induce the right form of characteristics. In truth this is a loaded question like most nowadays and needs not a straight answer.

We cannot use only the carrot for we will create a society of girls, a society which is emotive and narcissistic. A society which runs purely on love is lost. We cannot use only the stick for we will create a society of boys, a society which is feared and Machiavellian. A society which runs purely on fear is despised. We must have the carrot and the stick. We must have deterrents and encouragements. We must have both love and fear. We must create khasiyat (reverence) which comes from the combination of the two.

اهدنا الصراط المستقيم - صراط الذين انعمت عليهم - غير المضغوب عليهم و لا الضالين

Muhammad Saifur Rahman Nawhami
6 Rabi I 1433
30 January 2012

Posted in ijtima.org, note 44 (06 Rabi I 1433).